This prayer comes from the chapter to the agnostic, primarily pages 47 and 48. We are given tools to do this through a close and inquiring reading of step 4 in the big book. Someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that. When i am disturbed, it is because i find some person, place, thing, or situation some fact of my life unacceptable to me, and i can find no serenity until i accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to. Unintelligible indignant filled with or marked by anger aroused by something unjust, unworthy or mean inexplicable incapable of being explained, interpreted or. Aa history what does the bigbook say about resentment. The titled side also tells us what the book alcoholics anonymous is to members of the alcoholics anonymous fellowship. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, selfdelusion, selfseeking, and self. Page 145 i cant afford resentments against anyone, because they are the buildup of another drunk. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and then follow its instructions. Eye color the meaning of eye colors does say much about a person. Write write about one or more resentments or about your reflections on the readings. Resentment definition and meaning collins english dictionary.
If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or. Resentments are like poison to us even when we think they are justified. That the book says resentment destroys alcoholics more than anything else has always stood out for me. Page 552, 4th edition someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. Never in my wildest moments had it occurred to me that i might like to be an. Resentments sheet definitions of terms used in column 3. List of resentments person, principle or institution why am i resentful. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person. The page 552 prayer to end resentments sober catholic. The greatest enemies of us alcoholics are resentment, jealousy, frustration, and fear. The book makes it clear that we must release anger and resentment or we will drink.
Do it every day for two weeks, and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and. Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions alcoholics anonymous alcoholics anonymous this is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics anonymous. There were 4 musts in the first and second editions of alcoholics anonymous. Sexual conductharm done t o others read carefully big book pages 6870. The page 552 prayer to end resentments with images. The golden book of resentments another golden book by ralph pfau author, father john doe author 4. Big book personal stories part iii they lost nearly.
The big book alcoholics anonymous points out that resentment is the number one offender for alcoholics and, i would assume, for all types of us addicts. I mentioned on my recent radio show the healing power of prayer that i would post the big book s resentment prayer. On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic. Not scary resentments worksheet page 1 im resentful at people, institutions, principles the cause what made me feel angry, hurt, guilt, jealousy, despair or selfloathing. The big book gives us another powerful example of how to use prayer to soften our heart toward the people we resent. Sep 10, 2014 someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. Resentment is bitterness and anger that someone feels about something. According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a deep resentment towards someone.
What does take a page out of your book expression mean. Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. To read a pdf version of the fourth edition of alcoholics anonymous. These instructions are for the below prayer big book, freedom from bondage, p. Usually it indicates that you tried once again to control or manipulate a situation or outcome and was resentful when it didnt turn out the way you expected. I have highlighted, underlined, starred and tabbed this part of the big book. We asked god to help us show the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend.
Aa, the big book, the 12 steps, family, friends, structure in the. I think im going to take a page from your book and start going for a run first thing in the morning. Big book acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. Lets go back in time, early in sobriety, the slogans were just words on the wall, and on a page in the big book. My resentments my character defects resentment prayer on page. Bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness by joyce meyer. Sometimes, it isnt long resentment we must deal with, but a sudden, consuming rage. Resentments in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. Read the big book, page 67, last paragraph through first paragraph on page 68.
Expectations are premeditated resentments soberrecovery. According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a. Our youngest son was always very placid as a baby, but now that hes getting older, hes. To doublecheck this, see the section on the serenity prayer, page 18. Just typed this up for a friend, and since i had it transcribed, thought i would share it here as well. Acceptance was the answer the physician wasnt hooked, he thoughthe just prescribed drugs medically indicated for his many ailments. Our step 4 turnaround is returning us to our proper orientation, back from our isolation.
After seeing that, the big book tells us to read our table a second time and consider our resentments from another angle. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the 12. This affects, threatens, hurts or interferes with myselfesteem, security, ambitions pocket book, relationships. Affects my selfesteem, security, ambitions, personal relationships or sexual relationships goodlifenoalcohol. The suggestion is that we pray that everything you want for yourself be given to them their health, their prosperity, their happiness. Whatever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our selfpity. The book goes on to tell us how to handle resentments. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will. Oct 1, 2016 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their. So i figured i would post it here so i have it handy. Democratic underground page 552 in the aa big book. It may be obscured by calamity, by pomp, by worship of.
Take a page from book idioms by the free dictionary. Here i met a barmaid who drank like a fish and was as mean a woman as i had ever seen, but she had. When i am disturbed, it is because i find some person, place, thing or situation some fact of my life unacceptable to me, and i can find no serenity until i accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Relationships relations with or toward other people. And if youre finding it difficult try the resentment prayer a its on page 449 in the third edition of the big book, and page 552 in the 4th. This barcode number lets you verify that youre getting exactly the right version or edition of a book.
The passage posted by avaneesh is the one from the big book that i quote the most. I didnt apply them to my life, and i certainly didnt crack the book for awhile. Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you. Page 552 gives exact directions on how to deal with resentments. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67. In that setting, consider that, over in the corner, sits an old timer who has been around aa for over half a century. Resentment is often defined as anger and indignation experienced as a result of unfair treatment, and its a relatively common emotion those who experience resentment may have feelings of. Maybe someone caused us pain but the resentments are our doing. You will find that by the end of the two weeks, you will come to mean it.
After all this, it cant be denied that the big book paints a really definite picture of the result of holding resentments. Review of angers and resentments pages 64 to 67 aa big book author. Releasing anger and resentments big book reading to wives husbands the big book tells us that. The 24hour plan page 5 and first things first page 32 have helped many of us cope with such a rage, although we didnt see how they possibly could until we actually tried themand. Learning the process of overcoming resentment literally saves the lives of people who are afflicted with the disease of alcoholism. Releasing anger and resentments releasing anger and.
Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Page 67 of the book, alcoholics anonymous, states, resentment is the number one offender. In the lower righthand corner it reads, this is the third edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. Definition of take a page out of your book in the idioms dictionary. On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that. The twelve step prayers were created using the text of the big book of. This is what is meant by the big book when it says that our troubles are of our own making. Take a page out of your book idioms by the free dictionary. The story is titled freedom from bondage i have the 3rd edition of the aa big book. Aa big book 4th edition alcoholics anonymous edinburgh. I thought that they were nice ideas, but again applying them to my life didnt mean much to me. I heard this at an aa meeting tonight and it hit home. Thats the way my drinking began, as a way to make the pain go away.
Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. Actually we were fooling ourselves, for deep down in every man, woman, and child, is the fundamental idea of god. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. When you find yourself feeling resentment, you can almost always trace it back to your expectations. Page 325 i realized i had to get rid of it a resentment toward his mother, for my reprieve was running out, and if i didnt get rid of it i was going to. Page 552 third and fourth edition of the big book contains a suggestion for dealing with resentments about people that we find overwhelmingly difficult to overcome. The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. Anger a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong. Impunity exemption or freedom from punishment, harm or loss. Here they are, the 82 occurrences of the word must found in alcoholics anonymous 4th edition the doctors opinion 1 page xxiii. What kinds of fruit besides those mentioned in galatians 5 does the holy spirit produce in the life of the christian, if any. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Do it every day for two weeks and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will.
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